Field notes
Everything we learned that did not fit in a ranking.
Safety checks, message templates, niche breakdowns and the unwritten etiquette of no-strings dating. Written by the same editors who test the sites, for the same people who read the lists.
Start here · Safety
How to spot a fake profile in under 30 seconds
Six tells that separate a real person from a script — and the one check almost nobody bothers to do.
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Etiquette
The first message that actually gets a reply
Why "hey" fails, what to write instead, and the three-line structure that works on every casual dating site.
Safety
Staying safe on adult dating sites: a practical guide
The small habits that keep casual dating low-risk — before the first message, before the first date, and after.
Reference
Niche dating sites, explained without the jargon
What a niche site actually is, how to tell a real community from a marketing label, and which ones are worth your time.
Value
Free vs paid dating sites: what you actually get
The paywall test that reveals whether a "free" site is really free — and when paying is genuinely worth it.
Etiquette
Casual dating rules nobody writes down
The unwritten etiquette of no-strings dating — honesty, pace, and how to end things without becoming the story someone tells.
Enough reading
Put it into practice on a site built for casual dating.
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